Graham English Talks Episode 7
August 29, 2007
0 CommentsIn this episode I talk about how I got my ass handed to me by the 300 workout and my long search for a previous love, the Words of the Month.
Music:
Feels Good Being Somebody by Dias Malos
Sexy Lectric Car by Moonchild Louis
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August 17, 2006
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We resist people we don’t trust. Gaining an unconscious connection with people will powerfully influence the speed towards your intended interpersonal outcomes.
You can create hypnotic rapport through imitating someone’s current behavior. This is commonly referred to as mirroring or pacing — and it happens quite naturally. You can mirror someone’s behavior on many different levels — through your dress, your language and manners, your body posture and movement, and even your breathing.
By pacing someone’s behavior, mirroring and feeding back their voice tonality and tempo, facial expressions, posture and gestures, it is possible for you to not only match their behavior, but to lead.
So the first step in gaining someone’s trust is to be more like them. We trust people who are like us. To prove this point, ask yourself who would you rather give money to? Yourself or someone else? 
Notice how your listener is standing and inconspicuously imitate their posture. We do this naturally already. The next time you’re with a group of people you like, notice how often you mirror each other. You’ll be surprised.
There are three main aspects to mirroring speech. First is the quality of the voice: pitch and tone, tempo, emotion, accent, and volume. Second is specific vocabulary. You’ll notice certain words or phrases that come up in the conversation frequently and you’ll want to match their vocabulary. The third aspect to mirroring speech is by utilizing their dominant submodalities. Notice if they speak with visual, auditory, or kinesthetic metaphors. See what I mean? Can you hear what I’m saying?
We can create rapport and build trust on many different levels. I wonder if you have a clear picture of how you will integrate pacing and leading into your behavior.
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May 14, 2006
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Today’s a sad day for me. My favorite show of all time is ending. Trust me when I say that I’m not a TV addict. I didn’t own a TV for many years. But The West Wing changed all that.
Why I love The West Wing:
Peak Performance. In my quest to be a great musician, I have become a peak performance fanatic. Not only are The West Wing’s characters peak political performers, but the actors themselves are masters of their art.
Character. I have to look extremely hard to find integrity, intelligence, or greatness in the world, let alone TV. But these were good people of worldcentric values with enough moral fiber to share with the rest of us.
Content. The issues on The West Wing weren’t watered down for the lowest common denominator. These were high level discussions that didn’t come to quick and dogmatic conclusions but left room for debate. And it really opened me to the world of politics. I even seriously considered going to law school because of The West Wing. No kidding!
Writing. There are moments of literary greatness that I will always remember, like the opening of Galileo (season 2, episode 9). The vocabulary was SAT worthy and the dialogue was witty and real. Whenever I need artistic stimulation I watch my DVD collection.
Humor. It was hilarious! Not many serious dramas can pull off comedy like The West Wing.
Drama. Plenty of sexual tension, conflict, plotting, and cliff hangers. Man, when Zoe got kidnapped and I had to wait an entire summer to find out what happened I freaked out. I think I remember yelling out loud, “NO!” And I definitely counted down the days until I would get to join the story again.
Attention to Detail. Did you know they use Presidential letterhead on all the papers that we don’t see?! There’s tons of little details that bring realism to the show. That’s over-delivering.
Speed. The West Wing was an industry leader of words per minute. I’m a fast thinker and The West Wing challenged me. Many shows entertain me but not many are actually challenging to watch. I had to stay engaged to keep up. And I had to pull out my dictionary once in a while too.
It got personal. I fell in love with Leo McGarry like a dad and when John Spencer died, I cried. There was blood in the game now. And the relationship between Charlie and the President brought tears to my eyes more than a few times.
Tonight, when Jed Bartlett handed Charlie his copy of the Constitution that his father had given him, I cried for the last time. He could have been handing it to me.
Good bye West Wing. Thanks for giving me an example of greatness.
TV’s “West Wing” offered Utopian presidency:
LOS ANGELES (Reuters) - American television bids goodbye on Sunday to “The West Wing,” a landmark drama offering viewers a Utopian narrative — some might call it fantasy — of a president and White House staff who always put country above politics.
BBC: West Wing ends seven-year TV run:
The last-ever episode of acclaimed political drama The West Wing is to be shown on US television.
“West Wing” Ends After Seven Seasons With Inauguration Day Transition…:
It was an orderly transition Sunday night as President Jed Bartlet left office and “The West Wing” came to a graceful end.
Goodbye West Wing. Did you know what…:
Goodbye West Wing. Did you know what Mallory’s gift was? Seemed kind of obvious. Fitting end. Corny, for sure, but it worked. Almost like the ending of Gone With the Wind.
“West Wing” finale an emotional goodbye:
LOS ANGELES (Hollywood Reporter) - It came on with a bang seven seasons ago, startling viewers who could scarcely believe a TV series could be so smart, thought-provoking, beautifully written and well-acted, all at the same time.
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